“Crisis is a perception of an event or situation as an intolerable difficulty that exceeds the resources and coping mechanisms of the person. Unless the person obtains relief, the crisis has the potential to cause severe affective [emotional], cognitive [thinking], and behavioral malfunctioning…. When we choose to act we are making a choice that is clearly pro-life.… Choosing to do something at least contains the seeds of growth and allows a person the chance to set goals and formulate a plan to begin to overcome the dilemma” (Gilliland & James, Crisis Intervention Strategies, 1993 p.3 -5).
View the National Child Abuse website.
National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information
http://nccanch.acf.hhs.gov/index.cfm
MedlinePlus: Child Abuse
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/childabuse.html
These articles are all found under the above (MedlinePlus: Child Abuse) web site address.
How to Start a Child Abuse Prevention Program in Your Community
http://nccanch.acf.hhs.gov/pubs/prevenres/prevprog.cfm
Sexual Abuse Prevention: What to do if you suspect child sexual abuse
http://www.medem.com/MedLB/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZ7PP1YA7C&sub_cat=355
Adult Manifestations of Childhood Sexual Abuse
http://www.medem.com/medlb/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZMXNDEKEC&sub_cat=351
Summary: “Obstetricians and gynecologists encounter patients with a wide array of symptoms that may be associated with a history of childhood sexual abuse. Frequently, the underlying cause of these symptoms is not recognized by the physician and, in many cases, by the patient… (1) Adult CSA survivors have disproportionately high use of health care services, more severe symptoms with more complex patterns of presentation, and often somatic symptoms that do not respond to routine treatment (2-4). These issues can create frustration for women and treatment challenges for their physicians.”
“The prevalence of childhood sexual abuse in the United States is unknown. Because of the shame and stigma associated with abuse, many victims never disclose such experiences.” This article also gives definitions of childhood sexual abuse and common symptoms in adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
Parenting the Sexually Abused Child
http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/pubs/f_abused.cfm#what
Talking to Your Child about Sexual Abuse
http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/sexual_abuse.html
Sexual Abuse: What is child sexual abuse?
http://www.medem.com/MedLB/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZ1LW3YA7C&sub_cat=348
JAMA Patient Page: Protecting Our Children from Child Abuse
http://www.medem.com/medlb/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZDPBQXMAC&sub_cat=355
Books and VHS Resources for Families
Abuse: Sexual
Author Title
David Peters Betrayal of Innocence: What Everyone Should Know About Child Sexual Abuse
Hancock, Maxine Child Sexual Abuse: A Hope for Healing
Jan Frank Door of Hope, A
Tanner & Elliott My Father's Child: Help for Victims of Emotional, Sexual & Physical Abuse
Rich Buhler Pain and Pretending
Pellauer, Chester Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals
Dr. Dan B. Allender Wounded Heart, The
Rick Hauser Strong Kids, Safe Kids: Guide for Teaching Safety [video in BFC library]
Addictions and Codependency
Author Title
Laurie Hall Affair of the Mind, An
Melody Beattie Codependent No More
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. Contrary to Love
Cleave, Byrd & Revell Counseling For Substance Abuse and Addiction
Schneider, Weiss Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession
Lerner Dance of Deception, The
Corley & Schneider Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom and How Much
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. Don't Call it Love
Marc Schuckit, M.D. Educating Yourself About Alcohol and Drugs
David Seamands Freedom from the Performance Trap
Henfelt, Minrith & Meier Love is a Choice
Carnes, Laaser & Laaser Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality
Douglas Weiss Partner's Recovery Guide
Maureen Canning-Fulton Reclaiming Intimacy: From Sexual Addiction to Healthy Sexuality
Dr. Neil Anderson Released from Bondage
Robert S. McGee Search for Freedom, The
Schneider, Schneider Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness: Couples on Healing of Sex Addiction
RPI Publishing, Inc. Twelve Steps, The (A Spiritual Journey Workbook)
Robin Norwood Women Who Love too Much: When You Wish He'll Change
Divorce
Author Title
Parker & Jones Every Other Weekend
Larry Burkett Financial Planning Workbook, The
Ellis & Burkett Finding the Career That Fits You
Nieder & Thompson Forgive and Love Again
Burns & Whiteman Fresh Start, The
Gary Chapman Hope for the Separated
Jim Talley Life After Divorce
James Dobson Love Must Be Though
Pat & James Williams Rekindled
Thomas Jones Single Again Handbook
Robert Garnes Single Parenting
Bill Butterworth What if Things Don't Turn Out Like You Planned
Joseph Kniskern When the Vow Breaks; legal issues
Palmer When Your Ex Won't Pay
Grief Recovery
Author Title
Zig Ziglar Confessions of a Grieving Christian
Crabb & Allander Hope When You're Hurting
Elisabeth Elliot Path Through Suffering, A
Norman Wright Recovery From the Losses of Life
Stephen Arterburn Safe Places
Paula D'Acy Song for Sara, A; Loss of a child
Michael R. Leming Understanding Dying, Death, & Bereavement
Healing
Author Title
Friel & Friel Adult Children: the Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
Dr. Archiblad Hart Dark Clouds, Silver Linings
Dick Mohline Emotional Wholeness
Les Carter Family Cycles
Fred Littauer Freeing Your Mind
Minirth, Frank, M.D. Happiness is a Choice
David Seamands Healing for Damaged Emotions
Marion Duckworth Healing for the Empty Heart
David Seamands Healing of Memories
Richard Mayhue Healing Promise, The
Bradshaw, John Healing the Shame that Binds You
Norman Vincent Peale How to Cope with Ten of Life's Toughest Problems
Harold Bloomfield, M.D. How to Heal Depression
Rita Bennett Making Peace with Your Inner Child
Springer & Wimber Power Healing
David Seamands Putting Away Childish Things
Stanley D. Wilson, Ph.D.Rising Above Shame
Robert McGee Search for Freedom, The
L. B. Smedes Shame and Grace
Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D. Shame: The Power of Caring
Jeff VanVonderen Tired of Trying to Measure Up
Stephen Arterburn Toxic Faith
Jeff VanVonderen When God's People Let Your Down
E.E. Wordsworth Why Fear When You Can Trust
Marriage
Author Title
Tim LaHaye Act of Marriage, The
Evans Christian Woman's Guide to Sexualtiy, The
Markman & Stanley Fighting for Your Marriage
Chapman, Gary Five Love Languages, The
Nancy VanPelt How to Talk so Your Mate Will Listen
Dan B. Allender Intimate Allies
Maggie Scarf Intimate Partners
Smalley, Trent Languages of Love, The
Scott Stanley Lasting Promise, A
P.B. Wilson Liberated Through Submission
Smalley Make Love Last Forever
Dr. Larry Crabb Men and Women
Dr. James Dobson What Wive Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women
Malcolm MacGregor Your Money Matters
Men
Author Title
Dr. Larry Crabb, Jr. God of my Father
Frank Wilson Master's Degree, The
Ed Hindson Men of the Promise
Gordon Dalbey Sons of the Father
Frank Wilson Unmasking the Lone Ranger
Gordon MacDonald When Men Think Private Thoughts
Parenting
Author Title
Les Carter Angry Teenager, the
Dr. Robert Laurent Bringing Your Teen Back To God
Rovert laurent Bringing Your Teen Back to God
Valerie Bell Getting Out of Your Kids Face and Into Their Hearts
Smalley, Trent Gift of Honor, The
Carol Kuykenall Give Them Wings
Dr. Canfield Heart of a Father, The
Rodney Gage If My Parents Only Knew
Jay Kesler Let's Succeed with Our Teenagers
Jim Fay Love and Logic
Robert Munsch Love You Forever
Beverly B. Runyon Overloving Parent, The
Grace Kettleman Parenting a Difficult Child
Dr. James Dobson Parenting Isn't for Cowards
Gargarino & Bedard Parents Under Siege: Why You Are the Solution, Not the Problem
Bluestein, Jane, Ph.D. Parents, Teens and Boundaries
Robert H. Schuller Power Ideas for a Happy Family
Norman Wright Power of a Parents Words, The
Vicki Lansky Practical Parenting Tips
Elaine McEwan Raising Balanced Children in an Unbalanced World
Sandra Wilson Shame--Free Parenting
Hamrin Straight from a Dad's Heart
Dt. Archibald Hart Stress and Your Child
William Coleman Ten Things Your Teen Will Thank You For...Someday
Evelyn Christenson What Happens When We Pray for Our Families
Tim Hansel What Kids Need Most in a Dad
Personal Growth
Author Title
Brennan Manning Abba's Child
Mark Fealand Behind the Glittering Mask: Seven Deadly Sins
C. S. Lewis C. S. Lewis on Faith
C. S. Lewis C. S. Lewis on Joy
C. S. Lewis C. S. Lewis on Love
Watchman Nee Changed into His Likeness
Larry Burkett Complete Financial Guide, The
Henry T. Blackaby Experiencing God
Floyd McClung, Jr. Father Heart of God, The
Jim Cymbala Fresh Faith
Jim Cymbala Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire
Bill Hybels God You're Looking For, The
Charles R. Swindoll Grace Awakening, The
Stefan Ulstein Growing up Fundamentalist
Frances Gardner Hunter Hang Loose With Jesus
Dobson, Dr. James Hide or Seek
Otto W. Toelke In the Presence of God
Larry Crabb Inside Outside
Doris M. Ruscoe Intercession of Rees Howells, The
Dr. Chris Thurman Lies We Tell Ourselves, The
Brennan Manning Lion and Lamb
Tom Paterson Living the Life You Were Meant to Live
Evelyn Christenson Lord Change Me
Jerry Cook Love Acceptance and Forgiveness
C.S. Lewis Mere Christianity
Gordon MacDonald Ordering Your Private World
Norm Lewis Priority One
Watchman Nee Release of the Spirit, The
Scott Peck, M.D. Road Less Traveled, The
Curtis, Eldredge Sacred, The
S. R. Covey Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Robert S. McGee Search for Significance, The
Gary R. Collins Soul Search, The
Norman Grubb Touching the Invisible
John Powell, S.J. Unconditional Love
Les Carter Understanding Your Anger
Colleen Townsend Evans Vine Life, The
Robert S. McGee Your Parents and You
Robert S. McGee Your Parents and You (Group Leader Guide)
Relationships
Author Title
John Friel, Ph.D. Adult Child's Guide To What's "Normal"
Dr. Dan B. Allender Bold Love
Dr. Henry Cloud Boundaries
Pia Mellody Breaking Free
Alan McGinnis Bringing Out the Best in People
Weeks. Dudley, Ph.D. Conflict Resolution
Lerner, Harriet G. , Ph.D. Dance of Anger, The
Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D. Dynamics of Power
Jeff VanVonderen Families Where Grace Is In Place
John Bradshaw Family, The
David Stoop Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves
Rachel Naomi Remen My Grandfathers's Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging
O'Connor, Karen Restoring Relationships with your Adult Children
William Berman, Ph.D. Shaking The Family Tree
Tim LaHaye Spirit Controlled Family Living
H. Stephen Glenn Strengthening the Family
Jimmy Evans This Functional Family
Jerry Bridges Transforming Grace
Patricia Evans Verbally Abusive Relationship, The
Reuben Welch We Really Do Need Each Other
Larry Crabb Ph.D. Understanding People
Women
Author Title
Liz Curtis Higgs Bad Girls of the Bible
Lee Ezell Cinderella Syndrome, The
Helen Alderfer Farthing in Her Hand, A
Denise Glenn Freedom for Mothers
Denise Glenn Freedom for Mothers: Workbook for Group Study
Liz Curtis Higgs One Size Fits All and other Fables
Faye C. Stowe Whole Woman, The
Denise Glenn Wisdom for Mothers: Workbook for Group Study
VHS Tapes for Families in the Bethany First Church Library
Author Title
Jimmy Evans Four Foundational Laws of Marriage
Jimmy Evans Marriage and Money
Jimmy Evans Most Important Issue in Marriage, The
Jimmy Evans Parents: Past and Present
Jimmy Evans Principles For Positive Communication
Jimmy Evans Raising Great Children as You Build a Great Marriage
Jimmy Evans Understanding and Meeting Your Husbands Needs
Jimmy Evans Vision-The Secret of a Supernatural Marriage
Jimmy Evans Promise in Training in God's Word, The
Jimmy Evans Promise of Moral Corruption, The
Jimmy Evans Promise of Positive Communication, The
Jimmy Evans Promise of Sowing and Reaping, Promise of Prayer
Rick Hauser Strong Kids, Safe Kids: A Family Guide for Teaching Safety